Dear LA, I’m in a relationship with a guy 4 years older than I and we’ve been dating for 10 years now.
He is every woman’s dream of a husband and embodies all the qualities you’ve spoken about that can be termed, ‘husband material’. He’s asked me to marry him but I’m a bit scared because of his financial status. You see, he’s working but his salary is not enough to cater for our needs not to talk of executing a wedding. I would say that’s my fault because he sponsored my schooling. What do I do? Leaving him is out of the question because I love him.
Dear Jil, both of you should sit down and do cost analysis. Look at how you can have an affordable wedding and when itâ€™s most feasible to get married. Do it together. But you also have to give him assurances youâ€™re not going anywhere. That all you want is him. And youâ€™re looking forward to marrying him. That if the finances canâ€™t work now, maybe you should just wait a little so you can supplement his efforts when you get a job. Tell him you love him so much.