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Tag Archives: Emotion

Dear Jack, you’ve got to loosen up. Loosen up. There ought to be fun in marriage. You can’t be all that serious in marriage. Yes, marriage is serious stuff but there should be fun and play. You’re going to spend the rest of your life with this person. Make the history being created fun! That kind of relationship should accommodate a range of emotions and experiences that are joyful. Life is hard enough, times are tough enough. You’ve got to find moments of laughter and happiness with your partner. Both you and your wife ought to have your rituals of joy. It begins by not taking yourself too seriously, letting your guard down, being willing to be made fun of. Continue reading

Jack, what she wants is your vulnerability and that can be scary. And not after all you’ve been through. It’s why you’re guarding your heart, holding back on the inside of you. You’re afraid of being exposed, not to her, but being exposed at all. You know she’s not your problem. She’s absolutely trustworthy. And she’s poured her life into the relationship. She’s in 200% – it’s total commitment for her. She loves you that much. But you’re holding back. And I understand. It’s not even about “What if…” It’s just that you’re wary of life. It’s more about being in control, not so much about being afraid of being hurt. Continue reading

Dear Jack,

You’ve got to learn to express your emotions. I know you love her. Nobody can doubt that. But you’ve got to tell her. She needs to hear you say it. A woman needs that expression of emotion; she needs your constant assurance. Don’t ask me why this is so, it’s just so! Some things are just so in life though we can go on an exegetical excursion. And yes, she knows you love her, but… she wants to be told. Continue reading

Dear Jack, you can’t possibly be thinking of divorce barely two months into marriage. What do you think marriage is!
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Dear Jil, thank you for your mail. The issue you presented is one of the big questions in relationship. This gentleman has solid character, obviously. And he wants to marry you. But you’re not in love with him. Do you marry him and trust the love will come; or do you give up the relationship and forfeit his solidity? In other words, love before marriage or the possibility of love after marriage?

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Dear Jil,

Today I want to share with you the paradox of capacities. One of the greatest paradoxes of life is that strengths are often weaknesses.

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My dear Jack,

I’m glad you found my last correspondence to you so insightful. I suspect you must have shared it with a few of your friends. I got a lot of feedback on Twitter and Facebook.

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My dear Jil,

You’ve got to find a way to scale your past.

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My dear Jil,

Thank you for your reply. I’ll address the issues you raised in this letter. Hopefully I can pass on some wisdom.

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