My dear Jack, you’ll recall that only last week we were discussing about responsibility. Well, the subject is even more germane now given the Coronavirus pandemic. Continue reading
My dear Jack, you’ll recall that only last week we were discussing about responsibility. Well, the subject is even more germane now given the Coronavirus pandemic. Continue reading
My dear Jack, you’re going to lose this lady. You’ll lose your girlfriend. You’re giving her cause for serious doubts about the feasibility of a future with you. The relationship is young. As it is it’s going to be short-lived. You’re close to the end and you can’t even see it. I don’t blame her uncle for campaigning against you. I’d do the same in his shoes given the facts and circumstances. You’re playing with the outcome of her life with your dedicated unseriousness. And you seem to have a funny philosophy of relationship. You believe your woman is supposed to take care of the consequences of the gaps and failings in your life. Unfortunately these are lazy gaps. They shouldn’t exist. And not at your age. You’re in your early thirties. You work hard when you’re young. Time flies. Continue reading
My dear Jack, how many times have you heard the expression, be a man! “Be a man!” is the picture of a young man about to cry over a situation but being urged to toughen up, stiffen up and not let out the tears. You’ve probably heard the expression since you were a kid. If you got into a scuffle, you were encouraged not to cry, to be a man! If you went to hospital and the injection proved particularly painful and evil, and you felt like crying, chances are your father would have said to you, be a man! These examples seem to create the impression that being a man is the ability to absorb pain, or to stand up to someone. Continue reading
My dear Jil, as I read your mail, memories of a novel I read in secondary school came flooding in. I seriously doubt you’d have known a writer named James Hadley Chase – one of several pseudonyms. He wrote under five names. His birth name was actually Rene Lodge Brabazon Raymond. He was a crime writer, quite brilliant. Wrote 90 novels as Hadley Chase. Possibly read all ninety in secondary school! He had fantastic openings in his books. They’re the stuff of legend.
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My dear Jack, let me explain to you how the world works so you won’t be discouraged, perplexed or bitter. That will affect your marriage. You may inexplicably take it out on your wife in frustration. Like you said, you’ve not got any response to all those mails you sent out asking for help. That’s because the world doesn’t operate that way. You no doubt have a genuine and passionate desire to succeed, which is why you wrote all those people in the first place. All you’re asking from them is for connection, and you’re wondering why they won’t grant you even the courtesy of response. It would seem these men and women are wicked, don’t want to help a youth. All you’re asking for is a chance.
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