Tag Archives: Confidentiality

My dear Jack, I read your mail, and I sighed deeply. It’s not because the issue is unresolvable but because there are so many dimensions to the issue. It boils down to the question of disclosure – what should a man disclose to his fiancée, and what should a woman disclose to her man before marriage. Some of the things some men insist upon are prurient and unwholesome – things like number of lovers before they met… Of what use is that sort of information? The only right answer such a questioner will be pleased with is “None.” He can’t handle any other answer. There are those with the mentality of Henry VIII King of England. He couldn’t handle the knowledge his wife had a past lover BEFORE THEY MET. Killed the guy. It’s a gory editorial work on sexual history. Some men want to be the first. Unfortunately they get attracted to non-virgins and can’t handle the fact. You can’t reverse history. It’s best to just accept your girlfriend’s sexual history and concentrate on what attracted you to her. You came into her life later than her past.