All Letters

My dear Jil,

I met your younger sister Jilette at a seminar at which I spoke last weekend. Can you deliver this letter to her.

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My dear Jack,

I think the fundamental problem is love across the Atlantic, not all those issues you raised. Long distance relationships have their challenges, significant challenges.

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Dear Jil,

Let me restate the facts just to be sure I got things right. You met an older gentleman just a few months back – five months ago to be precise.

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Dear Jack,

You’re well aware of my belief in wholesome relationship. You have a girlfriend who treats you like an ATM machine. That cannot be wholesome. You’re dating an exploiter. You’re ATM, Jack. All your girlfriend does is demand and collect money from you. You have a demand and supply relationship.

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Dear Jil,

Thank you so much for the congratulatory message on my wedding anniversary. I’m indeed blessed to have met my wife. She’s a gem and almost on a daily basis I thank God for giving her to me. I said “almost on a daily basis” because I’m making allowance for statistical variation, but I’m pretty sure of the average. I do pray YOUR husband has cause to thank God for you daily. You should work towards that. You raised a number of questions about her – her qualities; you want to know what makes her special, why her. You’ll need to provide a big notebook for me to write her qualities out for you.

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Dear Jack,

I spoke to Jil yesterday and in the course of our conversation I asked after you, about your relationship. She was self-contented that she had a relationship but wasn’t happy. Wishes you’ll talk to her more, especially during the week. Now I know you’re busy at work (she knows that too). But you’ve got to engage her. You’re not naturally disposed to such emotionalism I know but there are things we do for the sake of happiness. You’ve got to try. Need not always be vocal conversation. Text or its cousins can supplement.

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My dear Jil,

Sometimes we think we are dealing with options and choices when in fact we’re not. There are false options in life. I want you to look at the “options” you presented: You’re currently dating a guy you said you’re not compatible with. And he wants to marry you ASAP. Why? Because he doesn’t want to lose you. Why? “Too many things at stake.” Yet your differences are so fundamental. You can’t stand many things about him. He’s a focused young man alright, but you’re nonetheless unhappy with him and it’s obvious you don’t love him. The only reason you’re struggling with the thought of marrying him is because you want to marry. This despite the fact that he shushes you up stylishly – essentially puts you down when you talk.

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Dear Jack,

Let’s talk about this self esteem thing. It’s affecting your ability to get dates so let’s deal with it. Self confidence is important but there’s a false version of it. You see that in the club sometimes.

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My dear Jil,

My dear Jil, I know you’re upset but hear me out…ok?

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Dear Jack,

I’ve written you so many letters now. Probably forty in number, maybe more. But today’s letter is slightly different. It’s a letter within a letter, like those Russian matryoshka nesting dolls.

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