Dear Jil, can you deliver this letter to Jack?
My dear Jack, you don’t want to be deaf and blind in marriage. That’s a terrible state. If you’re blind in marriage you won’t see what’s happening around you. You won’t see pain, you won’t see frowns, you won’t see laughter, and you won’t see anger. And if you’re deaf in marriage you won’t listen to advice, neither will you listen to yearnings. In other words, if you’re deaf and blind in your marriage you lose visual and tonal sensitivity. Continue reading
My dear Jack, there’s always pain involved in the realisation of a vision. The larger the vision the larger the pain involved. Vision entails pain. You can’t realise a vision without critical capacities. There’s drive, there’s intelligence, there’s patience, there’s perseverance, there’s fortitude… A whole lot of capacities are needed to realise vision. But there’s also need for a plan. A vision is hardly realisable without a plan. A plan is the product of a methodical mind. It signals mind discipline. A plan assumes thinking and coordinating capacities. Continue reading
My dear Jack, you see, when you warn a young man about these things he can’t fully appreciate the advice. These things I’m telling you will save your life, save you from misusing your life stream, save you from wasting your life on worthless pursuits. Continue reading
My dear Jack, you can’t know someone in the space of two months. It’s just impossible. There are layers to humans. It’s therefore not advisable to make a marriage commitment to someone in a space of just two months. You hardly know the person. That’s not saying marriages contracted within two months can’t work, it’s just that the success of that marriage is largely dependent on the inherent character of the people, as opposed to adequate knowledge of partner. Continue reading
My dear Jack, don’t blame her for going for him rather than staying with you. You didn’t give her assurance – and I don’t mean THAT type of assurance! Continue reading
My dear Jack, how many times have you heard the expression, be a man! “Be a man!” is the picture of a young man about to cry over a situation but being urged to toughen up, stiffen up and not let out the tears. You’ve probably heard the expression since you were a kid. If you got into a scuffle, you were encouraged not to cry, to be a man! If you went to hospital and the injection proved particularly painful and evil, and you felt like crying, chances are your father would have said to you, be a man! These examples seem to create the impression that being a man is the ability to absorb pain, or to stand up to someone. Continue reading
My dear Jack, don’t take your life. I know the economy is tough right now, that things are tough. But it doesn’t mean you should take your life. You were born to overcome. It will be a huge waste if you take your life. The present troubles pale in comparison to the potential of your life. Continue reading
